Sunday, April 21, 2013

April - Child Abuse Prevention and Awareness







April is Child Abuse Prevention and Awareness month. To fulfill both Prevention and Awareness, Caminante is hosting and participating in events to educate children and parents about the dangers of abuse and signs of abused children. As a child who was lovingly raised by her parents, never hit, never called stupid, never went to bed hungry, was always tucked in at night, and was told "I love you" everyday. This is not the story for a majority of kids in this area. Many children are not told "I love you" and do not know what a supportive family looks like. Unfortunately many of the kids Caminante works with are prone to violence, acting out, fall behind in school, and have few dreams for the future due to the abuse they experience and/or see in their homes and communities. 
                                                                                                        1. Physical Abuse
Physical Abuse is especially difficult to discuss in this community because physical punishments are typical. Spanking with all types of items are used daily on many kids with little or no thought by any and all adult. The "pow pow" is normal but in every class and workshop kids immediately use it as an example of abuse. One of my students in my music class described very vividly how she hates when her dad uses a belt because she doesn't feel comfortable wearing shorts afterwards because of the    
bruise. 



2. Emotional or Psychological Abuse
One of Caminante's goals is to empower young people and make them feel loved, important, and smart. Ultimately, Caminante wants to show them that they can be and do whatever they want. Cultural family life does not include homework help or reading together, (for many kids) positive role models, and general lack of love and affection. In addition, emotional and psychological abuse is more than common in the school systems. In classrooms too full, with students uninterested and unmotivated, extreme age variations in the classroom, and lack of resources all lead to a feeling that teachers need to resort to screaming and emotional abuse (and sometimes physical abuse) towards students to gain control.


3. Sexual Abuse
Similar to the United States, children are more likely to be sexually abused by someone they know, but in Boca Chica, predatory tourists also are a significant danger. Unfortunately, predatory tourists know that many of the children who work on the street or the beach will do almost anything for money or a meal. Hyper masculinity also puts young girls at risk for sexual abuse by young boys and teenage not to mention other males. 

4. Neglect
Like the other forms of abuse, in an American's eyes, neglect is incredibly widespread. There are several forms of neglect including physical, emotional, and medical. Physical neglect includes withholding life necessities such as clothes, food, shelter/bed, or basic hygienic needs. Emotional neglect includes several elements of lack of love, positive language, and empowerment. I am currently working with a young girl in one of my Sala de Tareas who I believe is suffering from neglect in her home. She repeatedly comes to class with dirty clothes, unbathed, and hair unbrushed. This neglect in her home is leading to emotional abuse in the classroom from the other students. 


                 

Throughout the month, Caminante is working to spread awareness about another form of common abuse. Caminante's staff is visiting bars, restaurants, discos, and colmodos (small markets) to reinforce the laws prohibiting sale of alcohol to minors. Many parents think that it is acceptable to send children to purchase alcohol or play the lottery for them. While Caminante is working to educate parents, we want to ensure that any child trying to buy alcohol (for themselves or someone else) will be refused.


To educate about Child Abuse and remind the community that Caminante is a safe place for children and families, Caminante is holding workshops for parents, visiting EVERY classroom in EVERY school and EVERY Caminante group, participation in marches, and hosting "Chichiguandos" (kite making activities). It has been a packed month already and there is more to come, but the busy schedule is worth being an open ear to the stories of our students and help to educate the community on the dangers of ALL forms of abuse. 


Friday, April 5, 2013

The First 6 Months!

Adventures, Friends, and Lots of Learning in the DR...

Loma, a Caminante short term volunteer and my roommate for my first month.
In October, we visited Las Terrenas, Samana Peninsula with
Caminante Psychologist, Julissa. 
I became a "Chica Brilliante" and help celebrate several birthdays!
Co-led three groups of energetic pre-teens through the
Desportes Para La Vida Curriculum.
Lots of laughter was always to be had!
Started teaching my English Classes. This one room community
 center in Los Cocos is home to daily activities for children and adults.
Here the students are learning the body parts!
A rogue fan started a fire in my apartment resulting in lots of cleaning,
several gallons of paint, and several days of hard work! 
December was filled with Graduations for many of Caminante's programs.
In this photo, adolescent students receive certificates for their participation in EPE an
entrepreneurship program for empowerment and practical skills training.
December also meant LOTS of Christmas parties, present giving, and great food!
Julito, Diana, and Denisse present one of the Ninos Trabajadores with a gift of new clothes.
I spent Christmas Day in Villa Altagracia in the Mountains north of Santo Domingo.
The trip also included a swim in a fresh water mountain river 
In January and February I visited Cabarete, the new home to my good
friend Julissa in her new job at DREAM Project.
I was very lucky to meet some amazing people and participate in the first GIVE.SWEAT weekend at Hotel Zapata. The event concluded with a martial arts session and delicious BBQ on the beach with Caminante kids. Looking forward to GIVE.SWEAT.2 this month!
In Februrary, Jim Moos and Felix Ortiz visited the Dominican Republic. I had the pleasure of traveling with them to the partners in the DR and Haiti. Here Jim and I pose with
Jeanette (in white), 3 professors, and several students of CONASPEH. 
I turned 23 with lots of friends and my Dominican family by my side!
My parents and sister, Torrie made the journey to the beach for their Spring Break!
It was Torrie's first experience outside of the US and she was awesome. 
While in the DR, my parents hosted a dinner for the staff of Caminante featuring
"Dios hable todavia" (God is still speaking) shirts from Zion UCC in Marion. 
For Easter, I traveled to the eastern side of the island to play tourist and enjoy a new beach.
Despite the rain and cold, it was a wonderful, beautiful, and relaxing trip!

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Hard Stuff

The first days back to work post Semana Santa (Holy Week) have been filled with some hard stuff...

Last Friday, the 12 year old son of Bishop Patrick Villier and Rev. Francoise Villier was killed after being kidnapped from his home earlier in the week. The Villiers are the president and director of CONASPEH in Haiti. Unfortunately, violence and kidnapping is not uncommon in Haiti especially in wealthy or prominent families. I just briefly met Demetress while he sat quietly during a meeting, but spent a few days with his parents during my visit. You can read more and leave messages for CONASPEH, the Villiers, and the three Mission personnel at CONASPEH here. The Villiers also lost a child in the 2010 earthquake.
Felix, Fracoise Villier (mother of Demetress),
and CONASPEH student (February 2013)
Boca Chica also lost a young adult over the holiday break. The 22 year old brother of one my girls, Maria, died in a motorcycle accident. Maria is a 12 year old sweet girl with a big heart who always goes out of her way to say hello and give me a big hug. They also have a several other siblings. 
Maria (November 2012)

Lastly, an adult man drowned in the beach on Thursday. While I do not know the whole story, I know that the beach was crowded and full of people drinking and enjoying the break... the beach is a great place to have fun, but it is easy to forget the dangers. 

Please keep all these people and their families in your prayers this week. The holidays were a time for relaxation and rejuvenation for many people, but these families have found themselves in grief and confusion of losing loved ones too soon. Especially pray for the parents of the two children who are, no doubt, asking themselves and God why their children were taken from them at such young ages.